When she was born !
Her Mom is the one who brought her to this world on 23rd of may 19XX ;).
When she was a little girl she made everyone smile by her cute chubby cheeks and the not so lucid voice chirruping like a sprrow -papa or mamma and moving outdoors by cruising and calling softly Maa Maa so that her granny comes out and take her to park for an evening walk .
Toddler stage !
Then when she turned to be a toddler she started behaving like a ‘dadimaa’ .
She wore her mom’s saree,lipstick and jewelleries and cutely question her Dad -papa ,papa when will I get marry and rule on my husband like Mom rules you :p ?
She also helps her mom in chopping coriander leaves and other little works.
School going girl !
Later when she grows a little more ,she is the one who questions mom
When will I get a bhai , so that I can tie a knot of rakhi on his hands ?
Her mom blushes and scolds a little for asking this question :p.
When she gets a bhai !
At the age of the 6 , the little girl finally gets a bhai , at that time she is most happy. After school hours she plays with him and teaches him what her mom teaches her.
She Didn’t let anyone touch her little cute brother; not any relatives because she thought they will steal him .
By the time her brother turns 3 or 4 she teased him saying That mom dad loves me more and they picked up him from a ragpicker’s bag. He cries and then she consoles him by giving chocolates .
Besides she also takes care of her brother In school bus and school .
The side of ‘care’ and ‘love’ is developed in her heart.
When she turns 12 by that time she is the one who asks dad for a head massage if he needs when he come to home from office .
She is the one who get jealous when mom gets her brother toys and for her nothing :p she rudely went to her room then and hid but then dad would show her that he got her a cycle .
She would dance and hug him .
over pampering by Dad spoils her ;).
Then comes the days when she played studied and enjoyed her life with the neighbouring friends and she noticed changes in her .
she got worried a little and then discussed this with her mom .
Her mom than told her that this hapens with every girl at this stage of life , its a sign that you are growing up , it is called ‘periods’ and there is nothing to be worried of them .It is our pride .
At this stage the girl finds a friends in her mom .
Her worries disappears because of mom’s guidance and carw and she finally accepted it .
Then come the age of 17-18 when she watched a lot of movies or tally series and realised the feeling of having a ‘crush’ on someone .
Many hot guys and cute hero’s like Greek God Hrithik, chocolate boy shahid ,Prem or say Salman of ‘Hum apke hain Kaun’ becomes her day – night thoughts.
Crush changes into love soon .
She began to feel the need of privacy in her life, she found herself indulged in love or something that love alike , when she gets her first proposal .
She thinks everything is beautiful around her .
Mostly the end isn’t love its just the first experience of realising the felling of romance and then learning that this just happens in this age ,and it act aa the ‘ learn from your past ‘ one stage of life .
That teenage when she loved love songs ,watching romantic movies ,looking at crush , and that boyfriend …that all feelings were beautiful in that age .
Earlier in childhood she wanted to marry now she don’t want ever to marry and leave her mom dad alone .
The little girl now is matured and finds interest in her career ,in her dreams what’s her passion ? In taking care of dad and in helping mom , in guiding her brother.
The girl who once dreamed free like a bird is now very carefull while dreaming, if it met her family terms and conditions .
(There is no book which contains rules to be followed for a girl but with growing up , she gets taunted for every single thing , even laughing loudly or wear short clothes or for being a working woman .
The girl does not love anyone or stays away from love for her because of her family boundations, but the same family is the one who ask multiple questions if a guy calls her .)
The same girl later gets married , and her ‘ affection’ divides in two parts one for the family where she was born and other for the family where she will be living for rest of her life .
She changes herself to her laws family in the same way as liquid change its shape in the container it is kept !
She became a wife, a daughter in law ,
She ignored all her beautiful body and figure just to give ‘birth’ to a baby child .
She worked , plus cook care of her kids ,husband ,and parents and everyone .
She made different recepies for her family .she read books ,blogged her happy and sad times .
She kept her busy all while ,just to avoid the depression
That where is ‘She’ in this world? .everything she do,did or does is for others .
And still many don’t respect a woman ,still in many parts of world she is torchured, molestested , her dreams are burned , still she does not go to school , still she does not have the right to speak in important matters of family , still she is treated like a maid , still the husband get jealous of her if she is more educated than him and manages both home and working together.
The above story is not of one woman , this story is the story of most woman .
Yes , we are changing ,
There is Lata Maa, there is Madhuri Dixit ,there is Mary Com, There is Sania Mirza but then there are also many house wives who spend their everyday in work just to ignore the “silent piercing of mirror in their hearts ” everyday to avoid depression …
So I salute those housewives women who are our true inspiration and its my humble request to all husbands , and sons please never treat your wife or mom like a maid , its okay if you guys get a glass of water for yourself or her. Instead of depending on her- become her strength.
She is beautiful , respect her .